Sunday, May 9, 2010

mother's day


on this - mother's day in north america -
i honour my mother

no more than i usually do

ask my friends
ask my colleagues
ask my family

i have a deep respect for my mother
who was difficult
when i needed a "difficult" mother
but didn't know it

easy going
when i needed
easy going
but had no clue why

was loving -
without condition
whether i knew it
or not.

it's very cool
to arrive at a place
of genuine appreciation
and admiration.

happy mother's day mum!

steven


25 comments:

ellen abbott said...

Lucky you. I was not close to my mother. She's passed on now.

Elisabeth said...

You've a lucky mum, Steven, to have such a son and I suppose you're lucky too to have such a mum.

nollyposh said...

Lucky you X:-)

Rachel Fenton said...

Happy mother's day Steve's mam!

ALeks said...

"If there are any heavens my mother will(all by herself)have
one. It will not be a pansy heaven nor
a fragile heaven of lilies-of-the-valley but
it will be a heaven of black-red roses
my father will be(deep like a rose
tall like a rose)
standing near my
(swaying over her
silent)
with eyes which are really petals and see
nothing with the face of a poet really which
is a flower and not a face with
hands
which whisper
This is my beloved my
(suddenly in sunlight
he will bow,
& the whole garden will bow)"

if there are any heavens my mother will by E. E. Cummings

:O) Warm greetings!

Bonnie, Original Art Studio said...

What a warm, loving photo of you and your mother steven. I enjoyed reading your tribute to her.

steven said...

ellen - i'm not sure i was always close to my mother. the differences between us made it unpleasant to be too close at certain stages of my life. but here we are. happily! steven

steven said...

elsiabeth - i know i'm lucky. now i know! steven

steven said...

nolly - thanks. steven

steven said...

hey rachel - she reads this so i'm sure she'll appreciate that!! steven

steven said...

aleks thanks so much for the cummings poem. it's new to me and a special gift. steven

steven said...

bonnie thankyou. it's one of my fave pics! steven

hope said...

I wish my brother was the kind of son you are...but he's always "busy".

Like you, however, I have a good relationship with Mom..who is vacationing this week at the beach, so I'll have to call her instead.

Give your Mum a hug for us...for giving the world such a nice son who plays nice and shares the toys on his playground. ;)

Golden West said...

Lovely picture of the two of your together, Steven.

Linda Sue said...

Ahh ahe is really lovely and so are you but in a manly sense of course...Nothing like a son's love- floats my boat!
Happy son loving mom day!

steven said...

hey linda sue - it is a good day! but i'd love to remember all the details around how i drove my mum crazy enough once to chuck a chair at me - it stuck in the wall she was that furious!! all i know is that for the longest time i wasn't a model son at all!!! steven

steven said...

thanks golden west - it's a prized possession. steven

steven said...

hope she'll pick up that hug on her way through these comments i'm sure!!!! thankyou so much. steven

Kay said...

what a lovely photo!!1...i look after my mum now..but although the rolls have changed shes still able to make me feel like a little girl again....which is someimes good and sometimes bad but I treasure these days....hope you have a great week....xx

Eryl Shields said...

I love the bit about your mother being difficult when you needed a difficult mother but didn't know it, and that you now do know and can appreciate her fully.

I remember my mum saying: 'wait till you have children of your own.' How right she was!

steven said...

kay thanks for the lovely wishes. it's actually a mixed blessing when you reach that stage in your relationship with you mum i imagine. i am looking forward to this week so thanks for the good wishes. steven

steven said...

eryl - that's what i was thinking when i wrote it. there's been a lot of "told you so" in my life although my mum has been very good about not saying that!!! steven

Helen said...

Quite possibly, one of the loveliest Mother tributes ever .... simple and elegant.

Titus said...

What a cool appreciation! Well done, and Happy Belated Mother's Day to all across the Atlantic Mums (Moms)?

Delwyn said...

Hi Steven

this is such a candid loving photo of you and your mum...and it was mothers' day here and in NZ too where I was...and my sweet girls managed to send me flowers too...

Happy Mothers' day to your mum


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