Wednesday, October 19, 2011


this is a special day for me. more special even than most. you see my mum - ruth - is celebrating her eightieth birthday today.

she doesn't quite match the image of eighty that i and perhaps you might see in your mind's eye.

she's just returned from a couple of weeks in england visiting friends and travelling
around to see some special places.
what she'll return to is her role as a walker at the local dog shelter, a supporter of the local donkey sanctuary, a preparer of gift baskets used to raise money for the huntington's foundation, loving tenderer of her garden, bottler of all sorts of awesome preserves (especially pickled beets which i could eat 'till i was sick) friend to many, sister in law to her closest friend margaret, gramma to alan, dawson and lexie, and of course mum to myself and my brother david.

she'll be heading off to cuba in the early part of next year for some r and r. books by the ocean, that sort of thing.

my mum is (among many other things) well read, well movied, well musicked,
thoughtful, reflective, sensitive, and i would underscore several times - driven!

there's lots more about her but really, you get my drift. she's not sitting around any more than she has to.
actually i don't think she knows how!

i'm very grateful for my mum - she brought me into this world at great personal effort - a couple of days of work . . . . . and stuck with me from then on, through thick and thin.

have you had a "difficult" child? then you know what ruth dealt with while pursuing a career, and managing the rest of her not entirely easy life!!!

nope, it's not been easy but then i think that my mum would ask "why should it be?" and then go after whatever's next in her line of sight.

much of what i value in myself has its roots in my mum. either she showed me how to be or i figured it out by standing on her shoulders and having a look-see.

i love you mum, no more this day than any other but this is special!


R. Burnett Baker said...

Loving! A Happy Birthday, to your mother, and tell her to not be a slacker!! Smiles!


The Weaver of Grass said...

Happy Birthday Ruth - lovely photos of you - we have to keep going us oldies don't we?

JJ Roa Rodriguez said...

Happy happy birthday to your mom! Now i know where you got all of your kindness, thoughtfulness and goodness!

Have a blessed day! And have fun!


Ruth said...

Steven, I hope I'll be a third the Ruth your mom is at 80! She is a beautiful, vibrant woman, and I can see at least some of how you became you.

Happy Birthday, Ruth!

erin said...

such vitality - and this is in you. your mom - your vitatlity times two:) a beautiful woman through and through. i hope she has a beauiful birthday.


Meri said...

Happy Birthday Ruth -- you're a gift to the world at large and an inspiration to women who want to shine their light as wise women elders.

Linda Sue said...

Your Mum is awesome! They just don't make 'em like that anymore- and she is lovely! I want to be her. Well done, Ruth!

The Bug said...

Wow, you're twins! Well, not twins - you know what I mean :)

Happy happy birthday to your Mum - I think I want to be her when I grow up!

Kay said...

happy birthday to your lovely mum....she sounds like she has embraced life and all it has to offer..a lesson to us all.xx

Valerianna said...

Sweet... and I'm glad to know more about your strong mother, she sounds like just the kind of woman I'd like to be when I'm 80!

hope said...

Working with seniors citizens completely changed my mind about what constitutes "old".

Old is a bad mental attitude and you can have it when you're 30. :)

Happy Birthday Mum...wishes for many more!

steven said...

to all who left thoughtful and kind comments yesterday, a very big hug and a thankyou. my mum had an awesome day, heading into toronto for dinner and a concert - both of which were excellent and a fitting way to acknowledge the start of her 81st lap of the sun!!! steven

Linda said...

Seeing as I am two days late, Happy second day of your eighty-first year, dear Ruth. I love the picture of you with your Mom, Steven!! It sounds like everyone enjoyed the day Wednesday. May you enjoy many, many more wonderful celebrations together.